Comments on: Society Says…

By: Alison

Alison — Sat, 13 Mar 2010 21:03:26 +0000

Thanks for all the comments girls… each post has got me thinking and Im sure its had you thinking too. About what really matters at the end of the day and what is best for YOU can sometimes be what is best for your FAMILY.
I feel so blessed that I am slowly realizing these things… its just a breath of fresh air.

By: Thinkin'Mom

Thinkin'Mom — Fri, 12 Mar 2010 20:55:33 +0000

Thank you for your thoughts, I too am struggling with my employment choices. I was recently offered a job at a company I have worked for before. The job is similar to what I do now but with the intention of advancement very soon. The working environment is great with more flexibilty in hours and involvement in company direction. I will have my child close by and may spend more time with her. The down side? Less pay as they are a small company and potentially less job security for the same reasons. I am struggling with the decision as I would like to take the job but I keep picturing the vacations and homes we won’t be able to afford…

By: Shannon

Shannon — Wed, 10 Mar 2010 01:26:18 +0000

I think you’re extremely brave to admit what a lot of people are feeling about their lives, that attaining this outward success and doing what we think will bring us happiness but ignoring our deeper urges only brings deep and profound sadness. Your daughter and husband will benefit exponentially more from a partner/mother who is authentic, happy, fulfilled and not splintered. Every person I’ve ever heard about that followed their dream, regardless of whether it was popular or easy, never looked back with regret. Not to say that it is easy and that some of the relationships might not survive but you’ve only got one shot here. This is not a dress rehearsal. You’re also a role model for your daughter and her emotional support system. You can’t really be fully there for her as long as your life energy is being sucked at in this way. I wish you all the luck in the world. I think you’ll do what’s right for you when you’re ready.

By: tangerinetrees

tangerinetrees — Mon, 08 Mar 2010 00:04:23 +0000

I think if you are a happy person,and you love your life, that will have a profound effect on how your daughter views the world. You are also responsible for who she becomes as a person, not just the food on the table and the roof over her head. I am very glad that my Mom was engaged in the world and enthralled by life while she was raising me. I grew up poor, but with a social conscience , and a sense that the world was an exciting place to explore, and the career path that I chose would be important. All because that’s how my Mom felt about the world. I am sure, either path you choose, your daughter will be just fine. But if you begin to feel guilty for following your dreams, remember, there are many ways in life that a person must be responsible. You are responsible for your own happiness, it’s not selfish to make sure your happy. If your unhappy you can’t be as fun of a wife and Mom, so you need to take care of your needs, to meet the needs of other people.

By: mummy

mummy — Wed, 03 Mar 2010 22:52:10 +0000

I say get what you want out of life instead of making enough money to have tons of stuff. Stuff doesn’t make people happy. As long as you will have enough money for the basic necessities. And basic necessities aren’t a giant house, a fancy car, tons of make-up, brand-name clothes and ridiculous amounts of toys for your kids. I am a firm believer that over indulgence is bad for children anyway. Downgrading your lifestyle can be a big adjustment but also very humbling. Happy Parents make for happy children. Do what makes you happy.