how much allegience do you have to yuor job

[Anonymous Posts]

what would it take for you to leave your job, how much better of an opportunity would you turn down to not disappoint your current employer... how much do you really owe them?

i love my job, something cool has come up, but I'd hate to let them down and leave


where is the lone between job hopping to make more money and simply wanting better for yourself

[Max]

At the end of the day, it's YOUR life, and YOUR career, and for the most part you have to think of you and your family's wellbeing first.

[my2sons]

I have the most amazing, supportive bosses. I believe they truly want what's best for me. One of them, after harassing me to 'work more' in a joking fashion said to me seriously one day, "I was thinking about you last night and you are doing the right thing with your kids-- you've got your priorities straight." (I'll only work 3/7 and on set days) Health care is perennially short of staff and it felt great to be validated this way by my boss. I'm pretty loyal to them but having said that I've got the BEST job in the hospital (really, no kidding!) and it would take a lot to pull me away- but I COULD be pulled away. My boss knows that I'm considering pursuing my Master's when my youngest goes to grade 1 and she just moans and rolls her eyes-- and I assure her I'll take 3+ years to finish it before I ditch them for greener fields.

[Anonymous Posts]

so ok, my2sons, just for the sake of argument, what do you do if the minute you start school for your masters, someone offers you a job that will pay for your education, more than you're making now, and offer the same (or more flexibility)

do you go, or do you stay, it's more money, but you're letting your boss down... but it's good for your career to move.

[Max]

If it were me, I'd have to go....a job that will pay for my education is less money being taken out of my income that can go to my family.

I think my2sons would be a loon not to take it. Although your boss might be sad to see you go, that's life - there will always be another person to fill the position.

[Anonymous Posts]

For me, in my current situation, I am actually thinking about leaving my current job to find something with better benefits and better flexibility for my family. I really love my job, but you know what? It's not like it used to be. Employers (for the most part) aren't loyal to employees anymore, so why should employees feel any more loyalty.
It's funny for me to say this, because I do feel loyal and will probably feel guilty if/when I do end up leaving. They have been good to me, and for the most part treat me well. But, it's an organization, not a human being, that I would be leaving, and I have to keep remembering that.
The only time I think I would feel a little more loyal would be in a small family-run operation, where leaving would having a direct impact on their own family's income.

[Anonymous Posts]

but are you not burning a bridge by "abandoning" that previous boss? i mean they would be inhuman to not understand, but they are human enough to be hurt by the "betrayal"... how many times can you do this in your career... do you think future employers would understand and respect that you did what you had to for your family? and maybe be proud of you for getting so far so fast?

sorry just playing devils advocate here... i have some heavy decisions to make

[Max]

I would think most bosses understand and wouldn't hold it against you - don't forget their life exists outside of the job too and they are playing the same game.

As for how many times can you do this in your life - you have to ask yourself, how often will this opportunity come along in a lifetime?

[Anonymous Posts]

op here

thanks for the perspective max, I'm just concerned that there are so many onec-in-a-lifetime decisions we make, some even unknowingly...

I've already made up my mind anyways i just wanted to see other people's opinions on this decision (i totally fabricated the situation to lead the conversation, mine is totally different, but a similar dillema / concequence)

now we wait and see.