What would you do?

AddictedImp · by **AddictedImp** on Mon Oct 08, 2007 8:18 am

Last week I was having a discussion with my BF of close to 2 years. about our relationship (long distance relationship due to him moving out) VIA MSN. It was starting to get late (after midnight), and I told him that I needed to get to bed, as I had to get up with kids next morning. I asked him if we could continue our discussion the next day, and he said yes. We both told each other we loved each other, and I signed off. Once I got the kids off to school etc. the next day, I logged onto the computer to check my E-mail, and Facebook, and I noticed that he had deleted himself from my friends list. I mentioned this to my friend, and she went to his profile and noticed he was marked "single" . I was shocked, as he never mentioned this to me. We both agreed that we wanted to stay together and work on a few "hurdles" we had. I was supposed to go visit him this past weekend. I tried calling him and E-mailing him, but he never returned any of my messages. I decided to give up on contacting him.
When we broke up last time, it was him who wanted to get back together. He had phoned me and was crying and saying how he didn't want to lose me, and I took him back.
Anyway, has anyone had this kind of thing happen before??
What would you do if this happened to you?

Anonymous Posts · by **Anonymous Posts** on Mon Oct 08, 2007 8:23 am

I'd move on.

Anonymous Posts · by **Anonymous Posts** on Mon Oct 08, 2007 8:28 am

This happened to me once a long time ago. He wanted space. Because I wanted him back when he finally called me I would say I could only talk for a minute because I was heading out the door even though I wasn't. It only took 3 times of this before he said we needed to talk and he wanted to get back together.

If I didn't want to be with him again I would not call him and if he called me I would tell him it was over and either get caller ID so if he called I would not answer his calls or in desperate times I have changed my phone number.

Good luck and be strong in whatever decision you make.

kattnipp · by **kattnipp** on Mon Oct 08, 2007 8:32 am

I had a boyfriend and over the course of 3 years we were on again and off again at what I later realized was his choice. Each time I would take him back thinking okay he knows what he wants now. After three years and again him needing some space I moved on. Best thing I ever did as I would have never met my wonderful husband. That was over 14 years ago.
It is hard to decide but you have to decide how much you want to keep the balls in the air and how much waiting and working you are willing to do. For me after three years I was done and I never looked back.
Good luck
Annette

Anonymous Posts · by **Anonymous Posts** on Mon Oct 08, 2007 8:36 am

I seem to recall a few other posts in which you've been having quite a few problems with this man. I say move on as well. I just don't think that two people who are meant to be together should be having problems like this. He sounds really immature and I think you could do better.

mumeee99 · by **mumeee99** on Mon Oct 08, 2007 8:49 am

I would move on too. I would probably email him and state the obvious (facebook, etc) and tell him that he's obviously made some decision without you and that you wish him the best. Keep it short and simple, he didn't have enough respect to talk to you properly about all this so I would bend over backwards.

Anonymous Posts · by **Anonymous Posts** on Mon Oct 08, 2007 8:56 am

I was in that situation with someone who lived locally. I moved on because I wasn't getting what I wanted out of the relationship. In fact, he refused to even admit it was a relationship, even though we spent every other day together, he introduced me to his brothers, and took me on weekends away (commitment issues!). And even though it was difficult to stop thinking about him, I knew he wasn't going to become the guy I WISHED he was. And If I hadn't moved on, I wouldn't have met my incredibly loving husband with whom I have more happiness that I ever imagined possible!

Move on, sweetie. You deserve so much more.

AddictedImp · by **AddictedImp** on Mon Oct 08, 2007 9:01 am

Thanks everyone for the replies/advice, I pretty much have decided to move on, but I just can't get this situation out of my head. Maybe it's just the shock (?)

mumeee99 ~ That is exactly what I did (RE; the E-mail) :-)