How Do You and Your DH Share Household Chores/Duties?

[Deb M]

I have a constant battle with my DH over the household duties.

Who does what in your household?

[wonderwoman]

DH does 80% of the cooking, cleans the kitchen most of the time, does bedtime with the girls and does his own laundry (his choice) and on occasion will do the girls laundry and the "household laundry" (towels, bedding etc.), takes out the garbage and compost most of the time. I do everything else.

He does get on my case every once in a while and asks why it is always him who takes out the garbage and compost....I then ask him for a demonstration on how the vacuum works....shuts him up every time.

[Bellinda]

I do probably like 99% but im a SAHM and he works fulltime plus, so I love it... I enjoy taking care of the house and being a home maker.... it works out well for us.

[Beaumont]

SHARE????

[Love being a mom]

I do everything ... cook, clean, laundry, ALL the diaper changing, baths, etc. I told DH when I go back to work I am going to need some help because I don't know how I will be able to do all this and work full-time.

[Shawna C.]

I cook, he cleans the kitchen and makes the kids lunches while I bath them and read books - he lays with them at bedtime...On the weekends, he sweeps the downstairs while I tidy - I go upstairs and clean the two washrooms while he sweeps the upstairs and cleans his bathroom downstairs...He vacuums the house and I dust...He chops kindling and fills the woodbox for me...I take care of things during the day (taking kids to and from school)..We share grocery duties when I am busy with work (I work from home), often stopping at Thrifty's in Mill Bay on his way from work...He builds stuff, cleans gutters, etc, I take care of ensuring everyone is wearing clean clothes (I do laundry and sometimes we both put away, sometimes it's just me) and make time for us to shop for kids clothes, etc..

I think he does alot - and I know I do alot...It feels pretty fair around here -- no complaints.

[BEM]

I am a sahm but I look after another little one as well. My husband works full time and will work 2 Saturdays a month. I do the cleaning of the house and most of the gardening(he mows the lawn once a week). I do all the cooking and he does the cleaning of the kitchen and the garbage is his as well. I also do the laundry everyweek on a Saturday and he will do the grocery shopping on a Sunday(I HATE HATE grocery shopping). So this works for us but if I have had a rough week and need help I never hear him whine to help out at all. It is all about give and take and well I think we have it down to an art!

[mouse]

It's easier to say what my husband does then what I do.

He does the dinner dishes, and that's only been since I returned to work full time.

[jessie_2009]

yes we share everything! we both do it all...... we take turns with everything, laundry, cooking, bedtimes, dishes, cleaning. we don't really have a set schedule we do, if something needs to be done, one of us does it.

[maggiemae]

I do most of the cooking usually. I help out once in a while, a load of dishes here, a load of laundry there, but for the most part it's all him.

[Deb M]

I work two part-time jobs and dh works full-time. He seems to think that because I don't work as hard as him that I get to do everything.

He cleans up after the dog in the back yard, takes out the garbage and on occasion he'll empty the dishwasher.

This is really becoming a problem. I'm stressed and he's in his recliner watching the tv.

[BEM]

I work two part-time jobs and dh works full-time. He seems to think that because I don't work as hard as him that I get to do everything.

He cleans up after the dog in the back yard, takes out the garbage and on occasion he'll empty the dishwasher.

This is really becoming a problem. I'm stressed and he's in his recliner watching the tv.

I think I would be hiding the remote and rigging the recliner to send him through the roof!

[Brenda N]

We both work all day and all night at a combo of housework and paid work - with some time off for good behaviour
We don't have set things that we each only do except he's rarely washed a floor and I've never cleaned the gutters....we both do what needs to be done if the other isn't there to do it first.

But in general:
He does 90% of the dishes and kitchen cleaning, he is more likely to vaccum but I'm more likely to sweep and we have almost all hardwood so I guess I do most of the "floor stuff"
he takes out 95% of the garbage and does about 70% of the recycle
he does 70% of the "tidying" with the kids (the night before the cleaner comes)
he makes the kids lunches
we now have a cleaner again so its rare that we need to clean the bathroom but if we do he does it about half the time - maybe a bit less.
He runs most of the laundry through (its a task we do differently and don't share well )
I do about 70% of the cooking and he does the rest.
I do most of the regular gardening but he does any of the heavy work and picks up the big piles of weeds and clippings that I throw on the lawn.
I clean the van - he cleans the gutters
There is never ever a time when one of us is working and the other is watching TV. Never. We'd both have a hard time with that. And yet sometimes I'm on KIV while he's working....but then I stay up an hour or two longer than him finishing my stuff.

[ander]

Dh and I share the 'tidying'. He vacuums, takes out the garbage and recycling, cleans the cat box, sweeps half the time, cleans the kitchen half the time and bathes the kiddo half the time. I cook, do bathrooms, wash floors and dust. I do all the laundry, he washes the cars. He mows, I garden (if you saw our yard you'd see that neither of us do either very often ) Sometimes I think he thinks he does more. I definitely think I do more. But either way, we're happy with the arrangement 99% of the time. I wish I didn't have to ask him to take out the recycling and garbage but you can't win 'em all.

[murf1511]

we as well both share the household chores, if something needs doing, one of us does it. We don't really think about who does more, but that would be bacause it's fairly even. He does most of the cooking because I'm mentally exhausted at the end of the day and he likes to do it, he takes out the garbage mostly and he always sorts and does the recycle. We both do dishes and tidy the kitchen. I do laundry and clean the rest of the house, but really, if we are cleaning for a reason, company or daycare interview, we both just pitch in.