PS - You still need to be nice to one another!
I have a 5 mth old and 4 yr old. I still qualify for mat benefits, but this is their busy season, so I've stepped in to help out. Gm wants me to basically be weekend mgr & she is a good person who I don't want to leave short staffed.
Hubby is a contractor. Over the years he's done well for himself, but his work is not steady & I've yet to feel we've reaped all the blood, sweat and hours he's poured in to his business.
He is talented but is now is working 7 days a week to keep up with his deadlines. I came home tonight to him dictating me to quit. Parents have helped us with childcare on the weekends, but with two now it's very stressful. Babysitting may be an option, but now we've got to factor in that extra $$ out the window.
I just don't know what to do...will accept suggestions to my rant
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as for a suggestion, i would check out usedvictoria in the child care section, as there is always people looking to take care of children... and you can often find a decent price
here is a search i did on weekend in the child care section
http://www.usedvictoria.com/classifieds ... =&x=27&y=9
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http://www.usedvictoria.com/classified- ... e_14870483
PS like PP i would not be happy if my Dh tried to demand me to do things. If you like your job then try to make it work. I hope this helps.
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I don't know what trade your DH is in, but many trades are feast or famine. Your job might come in very handy some day.
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I had to give up my business to have children. To stay home everyday looking after children I totally understand your need to do something else, to get out and feel like a woman instead of a wife and mother.
If finacially working is not the answer, talk to your employer. Maybe she will be understanding and have a position for you when your husbands work picks up. He really should have one day off. You could at least work 1 day.
My husband gets weekends off and I now work those while he stays home. Talk to your husband and see about working one day and he stays home. Tell him you need to have a day where you are not the mom. It makes you a better person, wife and mother. He also needs a day with his children. It must be hard on them not to see their dad so much or do special things with him.
It took my husband a few years to see I needed to work outside of the house again. We would fight but once I really told him that I was going nuts and felt like walking out the door somedays, he had a reality check and really listened to me. Your husband just might need that check too so he understands better, because he obviously doesn't "get it".
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My husband works shift work and it was/still is a challenge to find work. Alot of the shifts that were offered to me were weekend and I would have to hire someone as I don't have family that could/want to do regular care for our son. I had to factor in the cost of hiring someone and for me I would basically be working to pay someone to look after my son which isn't an option for me. I am now working in a decent paying job, but am commuting. I didn't commute and haven't had to for years. I've always been about 10 minutes away and I tell you some days I think it is not worth it. But we need the money so .....
It is a tough call, especially if you really like your job. Good luck in your decision.
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It might be just what is needed for him to not only bond more with his child and be more understanding but this way he still has money coming in on a regular basis than it sounds like he has been? I will also give you the chance to work more and perhaps have some better opportunities professionally (by the sounds of it) so when you are able / ready to go back to work on a more reg./fulltime basis the options (or current Mgmt. position) could be there waiting?
Yes, he does sound frustrated but not just about the usual things surrounding a young family and trying to support them. Construction is up/down depending on what field he is specializing in and even them it's not reliable? this way he has a regular cheque and gets to spend some time with his kids he wouldn't normally be able to do?
Not sure if this would work for you guys but thought I'd mention it?
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