Do you do it all too ?

[livelaughlove]

I'm really starting to get upset and resentful towards to hubby.. I love him to death I really do.. We've been together for 6 years.. But he took this new job last year and since I just feel BLAH towards him... He's gone to work from 11am-9pm most nights and so its only me for everything to do with the house and the kids... i do the lunch, school pickup, dinner, bedtmie, bath time, house cleaning, laundry, i mean all of it I dod it.. At first I didn't mind becuase he was working a lot and I felt bad for him.. but it's really starting to SUCK... and then when he gets him Im dead tired so I am practically asleep.. He gets home and hes beenon his feet all day so he just sits on the couch and goes to bed late... Weve had two date nights in the last 4 months, and he doesnt seem to have any motivation to have any.. hell have his friends over more than we have date nights but not becuase he doesnt want to see me just because thats what he does...

idw to split up at all thats not the question.. but how do people in the same situation do it ??? Idw to be mad at him but I am. I feel so blah and I have literally no energy.. I could sleep for days I think if someone would let me lol.. Idk how to cope with this.. this job was great for his career and $ but !@#$% for our home... Suggestions ?

[kattnipp]

How about have him do some before he goes to work. Make up a stew , soup, sauce something that can simmer all day in a slow cooker? You both have to sit and redefine your rolls at home. My hubby is military so there are times I do it all for weeks on ends but when he is here he helps out. How old are your children, can the maybe be bathed in the morning by hubby while you have a rest before he leaves?
Good luck finding a workable solution.

[TazDevil]

Do you work full time too? I work full-time, actually more hours than DH but yes we balance the chores because that is what you do as working adults with kids.

That being said he has his ASSIGNED chores that we decided based on the Chore Board.

We basically did a big chore board and wrote the names of us and the kids and we assigned the chores.

We are responsible for our own chores and sometimes we will help each other out, but if the chore doesn't get done then that person is responsible.

I am not sure how we would work in our family if one person stayed home full time, I am expecting they would take on the majority of the chores - 7 or 8 hours per days worth to balance the work.

For example, one person is responsible for the meals, one for the clean up afterwards, one for the kids bedtimes, one for bathtimes, one for finances and bills, one for house repairs, etc. We share laundry equally and we have a housecleaner for everything else.

If he is working at 11am that is 3 hours in the morning where he could be doing his chores.

[OnceHarmony]

What does he do now in the morning? What does he do on the evenings he's not working? What about the weekends?

I agree that he could do some of the stuff in the morning which would help you in the evening. Could he do stuff on his day/days off so you can have a break from the routine?

Also, have you thought about hiring a mother's helper to come in in the evening to play/help with the kids. Could you hire a housekeeper?