parental units per family

QT · by QT on Sun Jan 08, 2006 2:25 pm

I am sure this has been done before in some form, but I am curious how many KIVerz are single parents. I wonder about the ratio of truely single parents-like myself, with no contact with the other parent, or separated parents where there are arrangements of contact, or more traditional steriotypical mom pop kids, and finally where there is other parenting involved -by that I mean they are actively involved in all aspects of parenting; not just "dateing" a parent...and not restricted to step parents. Thank you

by **guest** on Sun Jan 08, 2006 3:01 pm

It's just me and ds. I have sole custody, sole guardianship, receive no support payments. The only "arrangement" is that ds's father could make arrangements to visit here in Victoria (he lives in Alberta). It would have to be supervised by a family justice counsellor, could be no more then 1 hour long, and he would have to pay all cost.

I am as "single parent" as one could possibly be.

by **Guest** on Sun Jan 08, 2006 3:13 pm

mel_torme_fan · by **mel_torme_fan** on Sun Jan 08, 2006 4:13 pm

Click on your choice and hit submit?

I'm a fulltime single parent also.
After too many crisis making, "Hate mom"
"Your mom is a wacko" " Your mom is nuts"
"You don't have a proper school, home, blabla"

The kids didn't want to see or talk to him anymore.

This was the first Christmas they chose not to include
him.
It was the most peaceful holiday we've had in over 7 years
I'm sure.

by **Guest** on Sun Jan 08, 2006 4:23 pm

QT · by QT on Sun Jan 08, 2006 4:24 pm

Hi hr-

did you get your vote submitted? My friend here just pointed out that I have yet to vote in my own poll... :oops:

so I just did...Thanks to everyone for participateing...

by **Guest** on Sun Jan 08, 2006 4:31 pm

Hi shawna g,

Yes, I did get my vote done ...finally!

lol...it is quite funny you did not vote yourself...that is something I would do...lol

Thanks,

mel_torme_fan · by **mel_torme_fan** on Sun Jan 08, 2006 4:55 pm

hr wrote:Quote: by mel_torme_fan-

After too many crisis making, "Hate mom"
"Your mom is a wacko" " Your mom is nuts"
"You don't have a proper school, home, blabla"

This is just what mine said to our DD...- just amazing what they will do to get child on their side...at the expense of the mom and child's relationship.

Ciao,
Heidi

It never hurt our relationship. It only hurt the children.
I have taped every dumbass voice mail he left about how the
kids were going to HATE me.
He spent so much time hating me, he forgot how to love his own
children.
Because i never slammed him in front of the kids, it just made
his behaviour more bizarre to them.
Trust me! It was hard biting my tongue sometimes!!!!

sunshine_mama · by **sunshine_mama** on Sun Jan 08, 2006 5:44 pm

I had a long post typed out, but not wanting to get into major detail. My ex used to lurk.

I've been with ds solo for 18 mos, his dad comes and goes. Makes big statements/demands and expects us to fall in line.

Allie

QT · by QT on Sun Jan 08, 2006 5:45 pm

Good for you Ms mel(is that the Velvet Fog?)torme for takeing the high road. I guess I have it easy; my son is the one who suffers through the lack of a father...he is only 2 and a half, and has seen him half a dozen times after he turned 1...um....june '04 was the last time. Some men just are not cut out to be fathers.

I call him the "donor"...but, under my breath.

Nightcrawler · by **Nightcrawler** on Sun Jan 08, 2006 6:07 pm

I started out as two bio parents in the same home. Then when my daughter was almost 1 he left. Then it was just the two of us for a little while. Then just after she turned 1 my mother moved in and it was My daughter, my mother, and myself. I am very grateful to my mom for helping me out but would probably never live with her again. Now I am in a new relationship so I have a child and I am a stepparent. Him as well obviously. His children have more then one mother so it is a very mixed mix now. Apprently I have done all of the above.